{"id":3623,"date":"2021-10-26T21:39:36","date_gmt":"2021-10-26T21:39:36","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/petinya.org\/blog\/?p=3623"},"modified":"2021-10-26T21:39:36","modified_gmt":"2021-10-26T21:39:36","slug":"dert-ve-sikintilarin-donusumu","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/petinya.org\/blog\/dert-ve-sikintilarin-donusumu\/","title":{"rendered":"Dert ve S\u0131k\u0131nt\u0131lar\u0131n D\u00f6n\u00fc\u015f\u00fcm\u00fc"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><strong>Dert ve S\u0131k\u0131nt\u0131lar\u0131n D\u00f6n\u00fc\u015f\u00fcm\u00fc.<\/strong> Merhabalar, bu yaz\u0131mda sizlere hayat\u0131n\u0131z\u0131n bir\u00e7ok noktas\u0131nda kar\u015f\u0131la\u015faca\u011f\u0131n\u0131z dert ve s\u0131k\u0131nt\u0131lar\u0131n \u00e7\u00f6z\u00fcm\u00fcne-\u00e7aresine bakaca\u011f\u0131z birlikte. Hemen hemen hayat\u0131m\u0131z\u0131n her noktas\u0131nda bir s\u0131k\u0131nt\u0131yla kar\u015f\u0131 kar\u015f\u0131ya gelebiliriz. Peki ya ne yapmam\u0131z gerekiyor gelin birlikte bakal\u0131m..<\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-3621\" src=\"https:\/\/petinya.org\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/03\/arkadas-konusu.jpg\" alt=\"Arkada\u015f konusu\" width=\"600\" height=\"300\" \/><\/p>\n<p><strong>Arkada\u015flar konusunda;<\/strong> seni mutsuz eden, can\u0131n\u0131 s\u0131kan, yan\u0131nda durmayan, seni \u00fczen, seni k\u0131ran, seni a\u015fa\u011f\u0131ya \u00e7eken, seni k\u0131skanan insanlar\u0131 hayat\u0131ndan \u00e7\u0131kar&#8230; Net ol bu konuda.. Kimsenin seni a\u015fa\u011f\u0131ya \u00e7ekmesine izin verme&#8230;<\/p>\n<p>Baz\u0131 \u015feyleri kestirip atmay\u0131 \u00f6\u011fren.. Mesela; tart\u0131\u015fma m\u0131 \u00e7\u0131kt\u0131 tamam, peki hakl\u0131s\u0131n deyip konuyu kapatmaya \u00e7al\u0131\u015f. E\u011fer uzat\u0131rsan ve a\u00e7\u0131klama yaparsan \u00e7ok yorulursun t\u00fckenirsin. B\u0131rak yan\u0131nda olmak isteyen zaten yan\u0131ndad\u0131r olmayana kendi bilir&#8230; <a href=\"https:\/\/petinya.org\/blog\/huzurlu-bir-hayat-icin-altin-kurallar\/#more-3394\">Huzurlu Bir Hayat \u0130\u00e7in Alt\u0131n Kurallar &#8211; 1memur<\/a><\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-3620\" src=\"https:\/\/petinya.org\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/03\/zevkler-ve-hobiler-konusu.jpg\" alt=\"Zevkler ve Hobiler konusunda\" width=\"600\" height=\"300\" \/><\/p>\n<p><strong>Zevkler ve Hobiler konusunda<\/strong>; Yeni \u015feyler dene, yeni \u015feyler bul..<\/p>\n<p>Kitap okumaya ba\u015fla ve daha bunu tutku haline getirmeye \u00e7al\u0131\u015f, kitap okumak \u00e7ok g\u00fczeldir<\/p>\n<p>Spor yap (sadece y\u00fcr\u00fcy\u00fc\u015f de\u011fil),<\/p>\n<p>Farkl\u0131 tarzda m\u00fczikler dinle (yabanc\u0131 ve e\u011flenceli, hareketli m\u00fczikler dinle),<\/p>\n<p>Yeni arkada\u015flar,<\/p>\n<p>ve bu anlatt\u0131klar\u0131m gibi yeni \u015feyler olsun hayat\u0131nda&#8230;<\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-3619\" src=\"https:\/\/petinya.org\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/03\/iliski-konusu.jpg\" alt=\"ili\u015fki konusu\" width=\"600\" height=\"300\" \/><\/p>\n<p>\u0130li\u015fki Konusunda; Hayat\u0131na alaca\u011f\u0131n ki\u015fiye \u00e7ok dikkat et ve se\u00e7ici ol&#8230;<\/p>\n<p>Do\u011fru ki\u015fiyi ve do\u011fru zaman\u0131 bekle&#8230; Her \u015fey sevgili olmak de\u011fil bunu unutma..<\/p>\n<p>Sevgili olaca\u011f\u0131n ki\u015fiyle bile; dost, arkada\u015f, yolda\u015f vs.. Olmas\u0131n\u0131 bil..<\/p>\n<p>Bu do\u011fru ki\u015fi ve zaman gelene kadar sen bunu d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnmemeye \u00e7al\u0131\u015f..<\/p>\n<p>Elinden geleni yap, iste ama b\u00fcy\u00fck bir beklentin olmas\u0131n.. K\u0131smetinde varsa hay\u0131rl\u0131s\u0131ysa olur tabii&#8230;<\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-3618\" src=\"https:\/\/petinya.org\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/03\/aile-konusu.jpg\" alt=\"Aile konusu\" width=\"600\" height=\"300\" \/><\/p>\n<p><strong>Aile konusunda;<\/strong> Bazen \u00e7ok fazla \u00fcst\u00fcm\u00fcze gelebiliyorlar, haddinden fazla&#8230;<\/p>\n<p>Ama onlar\u0131 da anlamak laz\u0131m, bizim k\u00f6t\u00fcl\u00fc\u011f\u00fcm\u00fcz\u00fc istemezler&#8230; Bundan emin ol..<\/p>\n<p>Bizim ho\u015fumuza gitmeyen \u015feyler oldu\u011fu vakitte veya can\u0131m\u0131z\u0131 s\u0131kacak \u015feyler oldu\u011funda bazen kula\u011f\u0131n\u0131 kapatmay\u0131 \u00f6\u011freneceksin&#8230; Aileni g\u00f6rmezden gel demiyorum asla bunu yapma, sadece bazen alttan almay\u0131, anlay\u0131\u015f g\u00f6stermeyi, hak vermeyi ihmal etme&#8230; Uzatmadan, tart\u0131\u015fmadan, kafa yormadan..<\/p>\n<p>O an olmam\u0131\u015f &#8211; ger\u00e7ekle\u015fmemi\u015f gibi davran..<\/p>\n<p>Bazen ailelerimizin bizlere s\u00f6yledikleri \u015feyleri d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcn\u00fcrken can\u0131m\u0131z\u0131 s\u0131karken bir de onlar\u0131n a\u00e7\u0131s\u0131ndan bakmak laz\u0131m&#8230;<\/p>\n<p>Onlar\u0131 anlamaya \u00e7al\u0131\u015f, onlar\u0131n yerine koy kendini.. Empati&#8230;<\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-3615\" src=\"https:\/\/petinya.org\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/03\/ders-ve-okul-konusu.jpg\" alt=\"Ders ve okul konusu\" width=\"600\" height=\"300\" \/><\/p>\n<p><strong>Ders ve okul konusunda;<\/strong> Ya\u015f\u0131n 18-23 aral\u0131\u011f\u0131nda vard\u0131\u011f\u0131nda insan art\u0131k yorulmu\u015f halde oluyor, t\u00fckeniyor..<\/p>\n<p>Okul, s\u0131navlar, stres vs&#8230; art\u0131k dolup ta\u015f\u0131yor&#8230; Sen de \u00fcniversiteye geldin art\u0131k.. Bug\u00fcne kadar yoruldun, t\u00fckendin.. Art\u0131k senden bir \u015fey kalmad\u0131.. \u00dcniversiteye ge\u00e7ince her \u015fey iyi olur san\u0131yorsun ama asl\u0131nda hi\u00e7bir \u015fey \u00f6yle olmuyor.. <a href=\"https:\/\/www.thechurchnews.com\/archives\/1996-12-28\/how-to-maintain-hope-in-the-midst-of-affliction-131845\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">S\u0131k\u0131nt\u0131n\u0131n ortas\u0131nda umut nas\u0131l korunur<\/a><\/p>\n<p>As\u0131l her \u015fey o zaman ba\u015fl\u0131yor.\u00a0 Hani \u015fey gibi v\u00fccudumuzun herhangi bir yerine bir \u015fey olunca o an hissetmeyiz ya, s\u0131cakt\u0131r kan\u0131m\u0131z aksa bile ac\u0131s\u0131n\u0131 hissetmeyiz&#8230; Sonradan fark ederiz ve ac\u0131s\u0131n\u0131 hissederiz.. \u0130\u015fte biz de \u00fcniversiteye gelinceye kadar can\u0131m\u0131z yan\u0131yor, yoruluyoruz ama hissetmiyoruz&#8230; \u015eimdi birer birer fark\u0131na var\u0131yoruz, can\u0131m\u0131z\u0131n ne kadar yand\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 g\u00f6r\u00fcp hissediyoruz art\u0131k&#8230;<\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-3617\" src=\"https:\/\/petinya.org\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/03\/senin-artik-yapman-gereken-sey.jpg\" alt=\"Senin art\u0131k yapman gereken \u015fey\" width=\"600\" height=\"300\" \/><\/p>\n<p><strong>Senin art\u0131k yapman gereken \u015fey;<\/strong> stres yapmadan derslerine konsantre olmak. S\u0131n\u0131fta kal\u0131rsan kal \u00f6nemli olan \u00fcniversiteye kadar gelebilmekti ve sen bunu ba\u015fard\u0131n.. Bundan sonras\u0131n\u0131 kendini geli\u015ftirmeye odakla.. S\u0131n\u0131fta kalsan da 10 y\u0131l okulu uzatsan da kendini e\u011fitip geli\u015ftirebilirsen kimse sana okulu sormaz. Yapt\u0131klar\u0131n\u0131, d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnd\u00fcklerini sorar ve g\u00f6r\u00fcr zaten. Dersleri aksat demiyorum ama kendini geli\u015ftirmeye odaklan bundan sonras\u0131 i\u00e7in.. Ders okul konusunda zaten elinden geleni yapt\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 biliyorum ama kendini kasma-s\u0131kma&#8230; Stres yapma olaca\u011f\u0131na b\u0131rak&#8230; T\u0131p da okusan, 2 y\u0131ll\u0131k bo\u015ftan bir b\u00f6l\u00fcm de okusan; kendine bir \u015fey katmad\u0131\u011f\u0131n m\u00fcddet\u00e7e hi\u00e7bir yere varamazs\u0131n&#8230;<\/p>\n<p>Diyece\u011fim o ki; hakk\u0131nda hay\u0131rl\u0131s\u0131 olsun ama her \u015feyi okula ba\u011flama.. &#8220;Gelece\u011fini okul de\u011fil, sen belirlersin&#8221;<\/p>\n<p>Genel olarak;<\/p>\n<p>Zaman ak\u0131p gidiyor, hayat zorlu bir maraton.. Senin burada yapman gereken; kendinin en iyisi olmak.. Yar\u0131n ya\u015fay\u0131p ya\u015famayaca\u011f\u0131m\u0131z bile belli de\u011filken neden can\u0131m\u0131z\u0131 s\u0131k\u0131p, \u00fcz\u00fcp, kendimize y\u00fck bindiriyoruz ki?<\/p>\n<p>Hayat gelip ge\u00e7ici, dik durmay\u0131, aya\u011fa kalkmay\u0131 \u00f6\u011freneceksin bir \u015fekilde&#8230; D\u00fc\u015fe kalka y\u00fcr\u00fcmeyi \u00f6\u011frendi\u011fimiz gibi, ald\u0131\u011f\u0131m\u0131z yaralarda ve d\u00fc\u015ft\u00fc\u011f\u00fcm\u00fcz zamanlarda da aya\u011fa kalkmay\u0131 \u00f6\u011frenece\u011fiz&#8230;<\/p>\n<p>Aile, arkada\u015flar, sevgili(e\u015f), okul, hobiler vs.. bunlar hayat\u0131n temellerinden ama sen \u00e7\u00f6z\u00fcm \u00fcretmeye odaklan.. Can\u0131n\u0131 s\u0131k\u0131p i\u00e7ine atmaktansa; payla\u015fmay\u0131 \u00f6\u011fren.. Kendin \u00e7\u00f6zemiyorsan veya d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnemiyorsan tan\u0131d\u0131k veya tan\u0131mad\u0131\u011f\u0131n birine can\u0131n\u0131 s\u0131kan durumu anlat. (bazen en yak\u0131n\u0131m\u0131zdaki insana bile anlatamay\u0131z kendimizi, a\u00e7amay\u0131z i\u00e7imizi).<\/p>\n<p>Son olarak \u015funu demek istiyorum;<\/p>\n<p>\u201cHayat \u00fcz\u00fclmek i\u00e7in \u00e7ok k\u0131sa\u201d<\/p>\n<p>Kendine iyi bak, sa\u011fl\u0131cakla kal..<\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-3616\" src=\"https:\/\/petinya.org\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/03\/kendine-cok-iyi-bak.jpg\" alt=\"Kendine \u00e7ok iyi bak\" width=\"600\" height=\"300\" \/><\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p class=\"article-header__headline\">\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Dert ve S\u0131k\u0131nt\u0131lar\u0131n D\u00f6n\u00fc\u015f\u00fcm\u00fc. Merhabalar, bu yaz\u0131mda sizlere hayat\u0131n\u0131z\u0131n bir\u00e7ok noktas\u0131nda kar\u015f\u0131la\u015faca\u011f\u0131n\u0131z dert ve s\u0131k\u0131nt\u0131lar\u0131n \u00e7\u00f6z\u00fcm\u00fcne-\u00e7aresine bakaca\u011f\u0131z birlikte. Hemen hemen hayat\u0131m\u0131z\u0131n her noktas\u0131nda bir s\u0131k\u0131nt\u0131yla kar\u015f\u0131 kar\u015f\u0131ya gelebiliriz. Peki ya ne yapmam\u0131z gerekiyor &#8230; <\/p>\n<p class=\"read-more-container\"><a title=\"Dert ve S\u0131k\u0131nt\u0131lar\u0131n D\u00f6n\u00fc\u015f\u00fcm\u00fc\" class=\"read-more button\" href=\"https:\/\/petinya.org\/blog\/dert-ve-sikintilarin-donusumu\/#more-3623\" aria-label=\"Read more about Dert ve S\u0131k\u0131nt\u0131lar\u0131n D\u00f6n\u00fc\u015f\u00fcm\u00fc\">Devam\u0131n\u0131 Oku<\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":2,"featured_media":245,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[4],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-3623","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-kisisel-gelisim"],"views":263,"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/petinya.org\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/3623","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/petinya.org\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/petinya.org\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/petinya.org\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/2"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/petinya.org\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=3623"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/petinya.org\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/3623\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/petinya.org\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/245"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/petinya.org\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=3623"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/petinya.org\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=3623"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/petinya.org\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=3623"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}